Earlier today I read a great blog on marriage. It made me assess my own heart and desires concerning marriage. I think for many Christians it can easily become an issue of idolatry. I also appreciated the analysis of Radiohead, also one of my favourite bands.
For myself, in my singlesness, am I content with my current situation and my identity in Christ? Are my deepest desires to be more than that?
I would have to say there are moments when marriage has become an idol for me. It is great to be reminded of the the power of the Gospel to make marriage truly beautiful.
But God in Christ offers us grace. He does not love us based on performance. He does not demand that we perform perfectly to obtain his love and acceptance. Instead, he performs perfectly for us, in life and in death and in resurrection, offering us true and ultimate joy and intimacy, from which we can freely love and respect our spouses.
Perhaps it might be the opposite for you. You are scared of marriage, you may not have all the cynicism that many in the wider community hold but you are hesitant to move in that direction, happy with the lifestyle you are living now, happy to be selfish rather than sacrificial.